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Mother Did The Unthinkable To Her Child When She Came Between Her And Her Boyfriend

It’s no secret that couples need some alone time and that alone time’s usually at a premium when kids are involved.

Being a single mother and raising your kids while trying to take on dating is no small feat, either. And that’s because most parents put their child’s needs before their own. For one English mother, however, her needs were way more important than the wellbeing of her own child. What she did to her young daughter is terrifying and heartbreaking.

Thirty-seven year old Michala Pyke and her boyfriend, John Rytting, have been charged with counts of child cruelty and drug possession after the death of Pyke’s four-year-old daughter, Poppy.

Read More: Charges Have Been Filed Against A Mom Who Injected Feces Into Her Son’s IV

Poppy died of cardiac arrest in June 2013 at Rytting’s home. An autopsy revealed that the little girl had drugs like heroin, ketamine, methadone, and diazepam in her system.

This Looks Like A Normal First Date, But You’ll Reach For The Tissues 45 Seconds In

When it comes to loss, watching someone you love lose all memory of you is uniquely tragic.

People with Alzheimer’s are still right there in front of you, but the length of a dining room table can feel like an insurmountable obstacle. You can reach out and touch them, but it feels like they’re miles away. And when they look at you, they don’t make the connections they once did. They can’t. They feel like islands, attached to nothing and completely isolated.

According to the Alzheimer’s Association, five million Americans now suffer from the heartbreaking condition. That’s five million moms, dads, daughters, sisters, and brothers who have no concept of who they are anymore — five million families who have to grieve the loss of someone who’s sitting right there. All we can do is make them feel as safe and happy as possible.

And that’s exactly what this woman does in the video below. Watch what happens when she asks her date to dance.

People struggling with Alzheimer’s may wake up every day feeling scared and alone, but it’s our job to ensure that they go to sleep every night knowing that they’re loved.

This Couple Really Knows The Meaning Of Dancing Like No One’s Watching

This video of an elderly couple dancing up a storm while on vacation reminds us all of what it means to be young at heart.

The adorable Texan couple named Burt and Carol were vacationing when they entered a restaurant in the Inverary Resort in Nova Scotia, Canada. When they walked in, they asked musician Keith Mullins if there was any way they could just order water. What they really wanted to do was dance.

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Mullins was so impressed with their youthful energy that he asked one of the waitresses to capture a video of the two dancing while he performed a cover of “Uptown Funk” by Mark Ronson and Bruno Mars.

How much fun are these two? The gentleman has some especially fancy footwork going on!

14 Pinterest Boards That’ll Inspire Your Perfect Lesbian Wedding

Two brides are better than one.

1. Lesbian Lover

 

Follow for: Inspiration for creative wedding portraits that will look so good hanging on your wall.

2. 14 Stories

 

Follow for: Photos of women from all walks of life marrying their sweethearts.

3. Hella Gay

 

Follow for: Serious dress and decor envy.

4. Kim Andersen

 

Follow for: A perfect mix of dresses and suits to wear on your big day.

5. Equalli

 

Follow for: Stunning photos that will make you want to get married tomorrow.

6. Ida Maria Gunnarsson

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Follow for: Dazzling dresses and a great collection of quirky cake toppers.

7. Brandi Edge

 

Follow for: A huge collection of ideas for a rainbow-themed wedding.

8. Lisa van Wijk

 

Follow for: A stunning array of vintage-style photos of beautiful weddings.

9. Steph Grant

 

Follow for: Lots of ladies wearing suits on their wedding day.

10. Marie Lapierre

 

Follow for: Inspiration for simple country-style weddings with a gay twist.

11. Bella Elisa

 

Follow for: A great mix of inspiration, decoration and gorgeous photos.

12. Jayne Jones

 

Follow for: Lots of photos of ladies kissing while looking beautiful.

13. Debora Rouge

 

Follow for: Creative wedding photos that are out of the ordinary.

14. Mandie Grady

 

Follow for: A ton of ideas for staging a unique and fun wedding that’ll include everyone.

Groom Surprises His Bride At The Altar By Serenading Her With An Original Love Song

Many girls dream of their big day, deciding every little detail as soon as they learn what a wedding is. Elizabeth was one of those girls, having planned out the whole ceremony to perfection, which is exactly why she wasn’t expecting the pastor to suddenly stop the ceremony with a surprise announcement.

The bride and wedding guests were stunned when he announced that the groom, Alan Hale, had a special gift for his beautiful bride. Right before their first kiss ever, Alan had planned to serenade Elizabeth with a touching song he’d written especially for the love of his life.

What a beautiful song, one that this couple and their loved ones will remember for years to come!

Every Year, This Bird Flies For Thousands Of Miles To Be With His Mate

For true love, this stork would do anything.

Every year, a male stork by the name of Klepetan leaves his home and wife to make a long journey to South Africa. Not because he wants to move out or he wants to break up, but because, like other storks, he needs to migrate. Sadly, though, his mate cannot join him. She was injured by hunters 15 years ago and can’t fly.

Instead, she lives in a nest above a red house in Croatia, waiting for her love to travel the 8,000 miles home and return for spring. When March rolls around, it’s time for this Romeo and Juliet to finally reunite.

See their incredible story for yourself, and learn just how proud Croatia is of these two!

When they finally see each other again, they don’t miss a beat.

The two are parents, as well; they have raised over 40 little storks together!

Can’t get enough? Here’s a sweet animated video of your favorite storks!

If You’re Over 30 And Single, You Should Be Using Tinder

So much of the discussion around Tinder centers on people in their twenties. But it’s actually the best way for people in their thirties and older who are looking for relationships to meet.

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Tinder is “stupid and harmful because it only makes romantic human connection harder.” It is also “a factory and you shouldn’t pretend it’s even vaguely romantic.” And let’s not forget that “the adult consequence of living with one’s decisions doesn’t really exist when the next best thing is only a swipe away.”

Most of the discussion around Tinder has focused on its core demographic: twentysomethings, gay and straight, in urban areas (New York and Los Angeles, where I live, are its two biggest markets), who seem to use Tinder to hook up, boost or masochistically deflate their ego, and/or issue sweeping, usually disparaging pronouncements about everyone they’ve ever encountered on it.

But I’ve now come to realize that even though all of the press around Tinder focuses on its popularity with twentysomethings, it’s actually the perfect app for someone in their thirties, or older, to find love. As people age, they naturally grow less inclined to seek out relationships that are more casual. (For one thing, it’s exhausting. After you turn 33 or so, staying out past 10 on a school night becomes much more rare.) Also, as we age, the pool of eligible people shrinks, and with it so do the number of opportunities to meet people in the ways people met people in their twenties (well, before Tinder existed): through friends, at parties, at bars, at work, in grad school, wherever. There’s something really comforting to know that, in fact, there are actually tons of people out there who are age-appropriate and are looking for the same thing you are.

Because much of the criticism of Tinder seems to actually be, implicitly, a criticism of the machinations of dating, and the ways in which dating causes people to, sometimes, show their worst, judgmental, passive aggressive selves instead of their best selves. My co-worker Tamerra recently asked me, “Do people think that the app will relieve people of the responsibility of being sincere, projecting themselves honestly, and communicating what they’re looking for in a relationship the same way they would IRL?” Certainly, Tinder seems to make it easier to not be vulnerable, to put out a bulletproof version of yourself. But Tinder doesn’t make it easier to fall in love just because it makes it easier to be exposed to hundreds, or thousands, of potential dates. To fall in love means you need to really know yourself, and be secure and happy enough that you want to share yourself with someone else, and to be vulnerable. Tinder doesn’t get rid of those steps, and it’s unrealistic to think that it would.

I agree with the psychology professor Eli J. Finkel, who recently defended Tinder as “the best option available now” for “open-minded singles … who would like to marry someday and want to enjoy dating in the meantime.” And I think that’s especially true if you are in your thirties and you are looking for a relationship, and you see dating as a means to that end. There are, of course, exceptions to every single rule, but I found that the people on Tinder in their thirties were, generally, more receptive to the idea of being in a relationship than you would expect. Including me.

I spent most of my twenties in a series of relatively short-lived monogamous relationships. I didn’t “date,” per se; I ended up with boyfriends who clearly weren’t right for me, but I was so comfortable with companionship that I didn’t mind. And this was the early aughts, in the early days of online dating: I was briefly on Nerve, and went on a few dates, but it felt unnatural and weird, and I didn’t know anyone else doing it. Or if they did, they were keeping it a secret, like me. So my boyfriends were guys I met in grad school, or at work, or through friends, or, once, at the optician. (He fixed my glasses.) It wasn’t until the last couple of years, when I was already well into my thirties, that I began to date date, and I quickly learned that the only people who truly like dating — and by dating I mean the numbing dance of texting, and not hearing back, and then finally hearing back, and then making plans, and changing plans, and finally meeting and deciding within 30 seconds that this is not your Person, and then doing it all over again — are generally either sociopaths or masochists.

So I do want to be clear that the mostly bad things people say about Tinder were also mostly true (and bad) for me for the year or so that I was on and off it. I got the addictive rush when I matched with someone, and another one when a match would text me, and another when we would make plans. I felt a momentary dejection when someone I was convinced was a match, based on his photos and the briefest of descriptions, didn’t match with me. Or if I went a couple of days without a match, I despaired: Was it possible I had exhausted the entire population of age-appropriate men in Los Angeles, and none of them was interested in me? But no. There were always more matches to be had.

I Tindered on work trips and vacation, meeting up a couple times with people in New York — just to see, I told myself — and became fascinated with the differences among the photos of guys in Norway (lots of skiing), Boston (lots of Red Sox caps), and Israel (lots of shirtless pics). I started taking my phone to bed with me, which had been a longtime taboo, so that I could swipe, swipe, swipe late into the night. I Tindered at bars; I Tindered in the bathroom. When it started feeling like it was taking over my life, I deleted it from my phone, took a break of a few days or a few weeks, and started again.

My profile stayed essentially unchanged over the year or so I was on and off Tinder, and everything I wrote on it was true. I was in “digital media,” I was from Boston, I was relatively new to L.A., I loved tacos and avocados, I had met two internet-famous cats but I liked dogs better. I had around five photos up, showing me in various environments and outfits and hairstyles. What I think I was trying to say was that I was approachable but not desperate, reasonably but not intimidatingly attractive, funny but not someone who did it for a living (this felt important since there were so many stand-up comedians in L.A.). I was finally over obsessing about not being “that girl” — that is, the girl who is vocal about wanting to be in a relationship, who is actually confident enough in herself to be upfront about her own needs. So I was also very conscious of wanting to communicate that I wanted a relationship without explicitly coming out and saying it in the profile, which seemed like a bit much for an opening gambit.

But while my profile stayed mostly the same, my experience on Tinder shifted each time I left and got back on, as though the breaks I took were also opportunities for the app itself to catch up with me. When I started using it in the spring of 2013, most of the guys on it were in their early twenties — way too young for me — and seemed to be only looking for a hookup. I messaged with a few of them out of boredom, but the novelty quickly wore off. When it came down to it, was I really going to go over to a 24-year-old bartender’s apartment at 10 p.m. so he could “make us drinks”? No, the days when that would’ve been appealing — if ever — had long passed. But gradually the average age of my matches crept up, and I soon noticed a very real shift in the ways in which I engaged with people on the app — and that they were responding more sincerely to the message I was sending with my profile.

And soon, I realized that all of this Tindering was doing for me was making me feel more empowered. I got to make the decision about whether we went out again. I had been so conditioned to believe that I wasn’t in the driver’s seat when it came to dating (thanks, New York) that I had become way too passive; I was so obsessed with wondering whether someone liked me that I forgot about the part that was just as important: whether I actually liked them. And going out with so many different people — in fact, simply encountering so many different people, even just on the app — had the effect of, also, helping me refine what it really was I was looking for.

First it helped me figure out what I wasn’t looking for. And that might not be what you’re not looking for, and that’s fine! That’s the beauty of Tinder, and the world; there are lots of different kinds of people for everyone. But for me, that became: anyone whose first profile photo was of them holding a beer; anyone whose first profile photo was of them shirtless in an upside-down yoga pose (granted, this might be an L.A. thing); anyone who seemed deeply unenthusiastic about their career (too old for this); anyone who lived in Orange County (too far and too suburban); anyone who had a picture of themselves proudly holding a large fish they had caught. (It turns out we can intuit a lot of things about people just from a few pictures.) I liked men who were funny and smart and did something creative with their lives. I liked men who were kind.

I’ve always hated those stories, whether it’s a Modern Love piece in the New York Times or an essay published somewhere else, about the single girl who finally, FINALLY finds love, and lives happily ever after. So this isn’t going to be one of those stories, mostly because I’m old enough now to know that there is never a happily ever after, that “ever afters” mean a million different things, and besides, an asteroid might kill us all tomorrow anyway. But I will end with this: that after a year on Tinder, and many matches but many, many misses, I matched with someone last March. We texted for pretty much 24 hours straight, and then talked on the phone for an hour and a half, and then had the best first date I’d ever had, where we talked about nothing and everything and I told him that smoking was a deal breaker and he agreed to quit on the spot. He is smart and funny and handsome and most of all, kind and thoughtful in ways that make me more mindful of how I treat other people. And the other night, when I wasn’t feeling well, he drove 25 minutes each way to pick up chicken soup from the Vietnamese place I like. Sometimes we talk about what would’ve happened if we hadn’t swiped right. I’m just happy we both did.




14 Valentine’s Day Cards From Your One True Love

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This Couple Wanted Their Wedding Bands To Be Special. So They Did THIS… And It’s Awesome.

Engagements and marriages are full of traditions that most people follow (but probably have no idea how they actually started). Some people, however, make their own traditions. As a result, their weddings are as unique as their love and relationship. Instead of buying their wedding rings, one couple decided to do something a little different. They bought some gold… and then proceeded to make their wedding rings.

There’s nothing wrong with buying your wedding ring, but this couple wanted to do things differently.

“We are getting married this summer. We opted to make our own rings and decided on fairly simple 18k white gold bands. The raw material is melted and poured into a cast.”

“This is what the cast looks like. There is something really cool about the idea that our rings will be made out of the same piece of metal.”

“The ingot begins the slow process of getting stretched and squished. Essentially it goes through a series of industrial strength pasta presses – one to “square” the ingot (pictured here) and then another to flatten the metal to the approximate width/thickness.”

“Again, using the magic of levers, the band begins to take shape.”

“This is actually a pretty slow process, as you want to shape the band without giving it a twist or breaking the metal.”

“Once the ends come together, the excess is sawed by hand (gold is expensive and even the little shavings are scavenged for processing and recycling). Not pictured, but the ring is then pressed in a series of decreasingly small cone-shaped sizers until the ends meet.”

“Once the ends come together, the ring is soldered with slightly softer gold. This is very difficult – there isn’t much difference between the melting point of the band and the metal used for the solder. There is actually a lot of heating and quenching – any time you put the metal under stress (rolling, pressing etc.) you heat it up and quench it to release the excess tension in the metal.”

“There is a missing photo here, but the ring is placed in a circular roller that both shapes the top and increases interior diameter. By this point the rings have a nice domed top but the inside is flat. While the outside is shaped via roller, there is no way to do that on the inside, so the interior must be shaped by hand.”

“The interior, once shaped, is pretty rough. Smoothing is done via rotary tool, sandpaper, polishing cloth, and whatever else you can get your hands on that will remove material smoothly. The ring gets VERY hot from the friction so you end up taking frequent breaks to give your toasty digits a rest.”

“Blurry but you can see the interior is becoming nice and smooth.”

“Just about done – they look pretty good here but they need a good final polish….”

“…. which happens nice and quickly.”

“The finished product! We are very excited to wear these rings and we love that there is an interesting story behind their creation.”

Source: Reddit There are many ways you can express love for another people. Some people say it and some people show affection. Other people spend hours in a hot workshop, molding gold ingot into a physical representation of love. It is awesome. Share their hard work by clicking below!

Thousands Of People Walked Into A Building And Started Singing…So Amazing!

With all of the rising hatred around the world right now, it feels impossible to relate to other people.

If the comments sections on social media posts are any indication of how people really feel about each other, then it seems like we are doomed to experience fewer and fewer meaningful human connections until we separate ourselves completely.

But as the people of Choir! Choir! Choir! demonstrate, sometimes the only thing you need to connect with other people is a common interest, like singing your heart out in unison.

In 2011, Daveed Goldman and Nobu Adilman started the choir as a weekly get-together in Ontario, Canada, for people to sing pop music and enjoy each other’s company.

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But they never anticipated that the number of members would reach into the thousands.

They came into the spotlight very quickly, going on to perform at several live events with musicians like Patti Smith and Tegan and Sara.

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Now the choir meets twice a week at a tavern in downtown Toronto, beginning each session by handing out lyric sheets to everyone and mastering a song by the end of the night.

The best part is that they record all of their sessions for your viewing (and listening) pleasure. Trust me, you’re gonna want to experience their music for yourself.

The diversity of their many voices shows that amazing things can happen when different people work together.

And their latest performance in the Luminato Festival at the Hearn Generating Station in Toronto with 1,500 of them singing “Hallelujah” is nothing short of epic.

If you’re dying to hear more and want to follow all of their awe-inspiring performances, you can find them on their Facebook and YouTube pages. If you’re in the Toronto area, you can even join them!